Monday, February 7, 2011

Unspoken Grief

Although I am one of the 'lucky ones' *knock on wood*, and have not experienced the misfortune of a miscarriage, I have been touched by the experiences of others.  I know women who have had to endure the pain of losing their unborn child, including family members, coworkers and fellow bloggers.  Each woman's pain is unique, raw and real.

When I was pregnant with the boy I spent a lot of time on the 'What To Expect' (WTE) Message boards and soon after our March 2009 children were born, our WTE sisterhood began a boycott from the site because moderators were deleting posts containing pictures or discussions regarding, 'angel babies'.  It was sad to realize that a place that had been so welcoming to all of us, was suddenly the home to such hostility.

From what I understand, the call for silence regarding miscarriage, loss and angel babies, is suprisingly common.  That there are many women suffering alone, without support and without community is disappointing to say the least, which is why I am so proud to share with you a new project being launched TODAY, called Unspoken Grief.

The Mission: to create a safe space for individuals & families touched directly or indirectly by miscarriage, stillbirth & neonatal loss to share their stories, feelings and thoughts about grief, loss, hope or society. Our society has a lack of understanding and a level of discomfort with the grieving process surrounding the loss of a pregnancy and it is our hope that we bring these topics out into the open and create a community where families are supported, understood and honor our children who left too soon.
The site is designed as a group blog so that everyone can contribute and share their story, they support and their experiences.  If you have suffered from a loss, you no longer have to do it alone.  Many kudos to Devan from Accustomed Chaos,for embracing her grief to create something that is clearly needed in our society.